ADDICTIVE personalities

Charla went from being a meth addict to a food addict. When she spends money she always does it in excess.  She is a wonderful person with a loving husband and two daughters.  She has a lovely home.  But she has an addictive personality. She can’t just enjoy life in bits and pieces – it’s all or nothing.

Mitchell can’t stop buying things: motorcycles, trucks, new building projects. Then he turns around and sells them so that he can buy more.  He is a faithful provider and husband – he just has an addictive personality.

An addictive personality refers to a particular set of personality traits that make an individual predisposed to addictions. Addictive behaviors are defined by the “excessive, repetitive use of pleasurable activities to cope with unmanageable internal conflict, pressure, and stress.

It is not good or balanced, it is unhealthy.  Some people just can’t do things in moderation – it must be to an extreme. 

We live in a society where it is easy to become addicted since our society has been blessed with excess.  If you want extra food you can get it. If you want more liquor you can always find some.  If you want to sit in front of your computer for 5 or 6 hours a day – no worry, your unemployment check will come.  America accommodates addicts.  We now have a nation of addicts. It is not good.


How can you find out if you have an addictive personality?  Answer one question:  Can you live without “it” for a month, a year? 2 years? permanently?  

A recent study was done on a university campus.  All wireless systems, e-mail, Facebook, texting, computers, etc. were shut down for 48 hours.  There were students who were having panic attacks and ended up in the emergency room.  The first step to freedom is to recognize the addiction.

Here is the challenge: Get off of your computer, Facebook, spending, porn, liquor, sugar, t.v. – (whatever you do RELIGIOUSLY)  for 30 days. Many of you couldn’t handle it. So many people live below what God has for them.  Addictions keep us wrapped up in wasting time, energy, money, health and vigor.  It is a powerful yet subtle tool of Satan to sidetrack us to the true purpose God has called us to.

Take a moment and ask God to show you what you are addicted to. It is the thing you don’t want to give up.

We have addictions because we need these things to fill our pain. When the emptiness and pain is gone we no longer need the addiction. Get healing from your pain. Read my teaching on Balm of Gilead.

Then pray this prayer with me.  

“Lord, I have an addictive personality.  Once I get set free from one addiction I run to another. It is binding me from being the man/woman you have called me to be.  It will stop me from fulfilling my mission here on earth.  Give me the power of the Holy Spirit to break this addiction and to fill my life with healthy things.  All those areas of my life that are empty, I ask that you now fill them – I don’t want those addictions to replace you.  Heal me and help me.”  amen.

Freedom is waiting for you to take the first step.   

8 thoughts on “ADDICTIVE personalities

  1. Im going to email you if that’s okay because I dont want my current feelings for everyone to see. I am probably going to say no to the counseling as of right now because Im going to get counseled by someone at school, but I will let you know how Im feel currently to give you a better idea. If you could give me some insight as to why I may be doing what I am (what I explain in the email) that would be awesome. 🙂

  2. I am actually going to be doing a Daniel’s fast during this school’s semester; Im hoping that while I do something breaks in me and keeps me broken at His feet. Thanks for wanting to help me through this, it’s be long.

    • Hi Nikki,

      I am praying for you. Anytime you would like to chat I am here for you. Keep me posted on your progress. If you ever want some counsel we could also do that ( I always counsel for free). You are very beloved of God.

      in the Lamb,


  3. How do you get out of an addiction when it’s aided by not believing that God is love? This is the struggle I’ve been having for almost 4 years now and it’s stayed because God being love is such a hard concept for me to swallow. My view of Him; no matter how hard I try, stays the same. I am even afraid to read Scripture. I am ashamed of the addictions I have but find that I go from overeating to other things if. It’s easy to feel hopeless in this; what should I do?

    • Friend,the first thing that God desires to do is bring healing. Anytime that we go for a long period and sense a wall between God’s love and ourselves there is a need for inner healing. Look at my post Balm of Gilead – really set aside some quiet time to ask God where your past wounds and scars are. Walls come from Satan, from ourselves or from past wounds. Getting to the bottom of why there is a wall is your first step. Do you fast and pray? See my post on The Power of fasting and praying (should be under “Prayer” or “Growing Spiritually”). Fasting & praying reveals darkness, exposes Satan & brings light into our situations. The addictions that you continue to have are feeding a need in your inner being. The addictions temporarily make us feel better, while digging a deeper hole. Know this friend, God wants to set you completely free. You are loved, you are loved, you are loved. I would like to help you through this journey. Stay in touch with me and keep addressing the problem – if you don’t give up you will find complete and blessed freedom. You now have me to journey with you. Write me soon.”Father I pray for my friend. Give her the understanding of who you are and how much you love her. Surround her with your presence. Bring healing. Bring peace.” In Jesus name I pray. amen

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