When God created the first man and woman, Adam and Eve, He brought them together as husband and wife, blessed them and said “They shall become one flesh.” When two people have sexual intercourse they become one person, physically and spiritually. They have made a soul tie: A deep attachment within their body, mind and spirit. This soul tie is deep and lasting. A soul tie is intended just for one man and one woman. When sin comes in and people use sex out of the context that God created it for then we have a lot of problems.
Any sex – that means ANY type of touching – outside of marriage between one woman and one man – is sin and is never God’s will.
If two men are having sex, or two women, or a man and a woman (outside of marriage) there is still a soul tie that is created. You can have a soul tie with a prostitute. Lesbians and homosexuals can have soul ties. A person can have a soul tie with an animal. You can even develop soul ties by just spending excessive amounts of time with a person – albeit on the phone, through texting, messaging or e-mails. It can be very easy to become attached to a person when there is a lot of sharing of thoughts, dreams and ideas. Thus soul ties don’t always occur just due to physical contact – it can be emotional as well.
The bible is very clear that God loves all mankind. Yet God, as Creator, still has His laws that He has set down. Homosexuality is sin. It doesn’t matter how much you love that person or are committed to that person, sex between two men or two women is sin and there is an eternal price to pay for it. Any sex outside the boundaries of marriage is wrong.
Soul ties can also develop when there has been a lot of intimacy between two people. When you begin to open up your heart and share the depth of your mind and soul with someone, a soul tie can develop, even without sex. Often this type of relationship opens the door for adultery. Soul ties to anyone but your spouse are wrong. It is an unnatural affection that keeps you bound to that person.
I am seeing more and more soul ties between women. Due to the lack of communication and commitment in marriages women often turn to each other for consolation. There is nothing wrong with this. But when a girlfriend begins to take the emotional and spiritual place of a husband – a deep soul tie can develop. This is often where jealousies, envies and other problems begin to develop. Girlfriends can be a blessing – but developing a soul tie with a friend can have detrimental consequences.
Can Christian women become lesbians simply by opening up their hearts to other women? In time, if a strong soul tie develops it can happen – I have seen it.
There are many couples who have had premarital sex and when they are married they often visualize former sexual partners while they are having sex with their spouse. When an individual finds their soul mate and is finally ready to settle down soul ties often bring much confusion, heartache, distrust, perversion and uncertainty into the relationship. Soul ties to anyone but your spouse is bad for anyone who desires to live a life free of sin and mental anguish.
How can you be set free from soul ties? First if you are in any sexual or intimate relationship outside of marriage it needs to be broken – it is a serious sin. Second, take the time to repent for each soul tie that you have been involved with in the past. Speaking the person’s name out loud, confess that you no longer want the soul tie and you now choose to break it. Each time the memory of that person arises affirm out loud that there is NO longer a soul tie and that in Jesus name it is broken!
Lord, I see that sex and excessive emotional ties outside of marriage is wrong. I am truly sorry and I repent. In Jesus name I now break the soul tie that I made with ____________________ (name all individuals with whom you have ties with). I no longer want that tie and I no longer need it in my life. I thank you that in faith I am free from all attachments of the past. Please give me the power of the Holy Spirit to live a pure life for you. In Jesus name I pray. amen.
11 thoughts on “SOUL Ties: Wrong Sexual Relationships”
I am dealing and trying to break a soul tie with a person (guy) who is not my husband. I have realized my mistake and sins and has repented because of God.
I know I am weak minded. I need guidance to help get rid of this soul ties and to devote myself to God and my family. Please help.
I recommend a year of fasting and prayer – read all my posts on Fasting. You need to want to do this – not just do it because it’s the “right” thing to do. Ask God to give you “sorrowful repentance” – He will do it.
I’m dealing with the following; I have been blinded by Satan and have been off the blessed path for many years.
I have sinned in many ways including adultry, and extensive fornication. This has affected me gravely to the extent that i have soul ties with many that i cant recall their name or even their faces. It has eaten me litterally.
Thanks to Gods intervention I have come to realize my sins and have sought out Jezus and have repenteted.
I need get rid of these soul ties but need guidance. Please help.
Mark, follow the steps in the teaching you just read. Pray the prayer. Stay focused on God’s Word. Put on the Armor of God daily – read all my posts. Let nothing unholy enter your life – it will destroy you eternally. Blessings.
I’ve been standing for over a year. My husband of 24 yrs is living with a co worker. His soul tie is a strong bond. How do I pray? How do I stand? He filed for divorce! I’ve prayed on my knees for a year and see no signs! My heart is broke. His family condones it too. I dont think things will ever be the same
Tammy, you still have a life apart from your husband. Let him go. You have done all that you can. I strongly suggest getting a “Word” on your situation. Only the Holy Spirit can give you the final Word on what to do. Begin to find your own path, your own strength, your own purpose. We are called to a life of peace, there is no peace in trying to make something happen that at this moment may not. Put on The Armor of God daily – read all my posts on this. Have at least an hour daily quiet time, just sitting before God, no bible reading or prayer, just sitting. What is God saying to you? Light a candle, feel His love and presence. Find Tammy once again. Once again find the true Lover of your Soul. Peace beloved.
Can you share an encouraging story about a person who has prayed to break a soul tie and struggled first with not wanting to FREE themselves of the tie? I feel I am changing my diet (for lack of a better analogy) and I want to feel healthy, KNOW that healthy eating and exercise is the key, but keeps longing for pizza. I feel like Lot’s wife, fleeing from Sodom and Gomorrah, but my attachment to sin keeps compelling me to look back.
Oh, this is one of the hardest struggles I have ever battled with!
This is not a soul tie – it is Gluttony. When you receive the inner healing that you need then you can cast this demon out of yourself. Read all my posts on Spiritual Warfare, How I got set free from Gluttony and How to Cast out a demon. blessings.
I was using a struggle with gluttony as an analogy (a poor analogy obviously). I actually do not have a problem with food at all. I apologize for being confusing! I had posted earlier in the adultery category. I am struggling breaking free from adultery and, sadly, there is what you described as a soul tie between this man and I
I know that breaking the soul tie is necessary (much like a person knows that eating healthy food is necessary). It know that it is absolutely necessary to free oneself of an unhealthy soul tie… for one’s soul! It just seems very hard. I feel that God is calling me toward him and I am following his voice, but, like Lot’s wife, I find myself looking back at the other man and longing for him.
I was hoping that you have experience with people that are moving in God’s direction, but keep looking back at their sin with longing? You recommended I attend counseling, which I am. I also called and asked several Godly women to join me in a weekly fast and prayer for my marriage. I am reading the other suggested posts you recommended.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge and the love of God with the world.
Again, sorry for the very confusing food analogy.
Peace be with you.
Thank you, Jackie! I needed your advisement on this issue in my life. Thanks for helping me to finally get free! Blessings!