Bullies are very insecure people who only know how to make themselves feel better by hurting others. It brings them pleasure to demean, injure, attack and ridicule others. Years ago I developed a technique when my daughters were in high school and were being bullied. This technique has helped many kids to overcome the bully, to be more confident and to feel empowered. I have had kids come back and say that once they used the techniques they were never bullied again.
I will share this technique as if I were writing to your son or daughter. I encourage you to print this out and have them pin it on the wall in their bedroom. They should work on this daily. I encourage kids to say these power statements out loud at least 3 times a day.
I want you to stand on a chair or table. Do this right now. How tall are you? How do you feel? Are you taller than others? Do you think you are taller than the person bullying you? I want you to close your eyes as you are on the chair and picture yourself 16 feet tall. Get that picture in your mind. Hold it there. That is the picture of who you now are. You are very tall. You are very strong. You are very powerful. Now, throughout your school day you will continue to imagine yourself taller than everyone else. When you go through a doorway I want you to duck your head. Remember, a tall person would have to do that.
When you walk down the halls at school I want you to begin imagining those around you as tiny as ants.
Picture the peoplewho have bullied you as ants. Do it right now. See how tiny they are? You must be careful not to step on them. You are so much taller than they are. Now, you will always picture yourself in this way. No matter what – you will always be taller than others.
What will you say the next time a bully teases, demeans or tries to hurt you? You will get very tall, you will point your finger in their face and with the loudest voice possible you will say:
“Don’t ever talk to me that way again!!!
“Don’t ever call me those stupid names again!!!
“STOP making fun of me!!!
“Get your fat hands off of me and don’t ever punch me again!!!
“Don’t EVER touch me or push me again!!!
Now, I want you to begin practicing each of these lines in front of the mirror twice a day. Get a tough, mean face and yell those words out. Say these lines until you have them all memorized. Do this every day for one month. After that keep saying them just to keep your mind refreshed as to what to say. This way the next time you are bullied these words will fly out of your mouth. The bully will be very surprised. They may keep at it – but you just keep saying these lines louder and louder. DON’T let them intimidate you. Remember, they are just the size of an ant.
Next, I want you to ask God to assign 4 angels to you. They can look like any super hero that you want – batman, superman, the Hulk, etc. When you ask God to do this He will send them. Picture your super Angels right now. There are four of them. They are protecting you and keeping you safe. When others try to hurt you they will be surprised that you will have a shield around you. These angels are just when you are being bullied. So don’t think you can do something foolish and they will protect you. Their assignment is strictly against bullies. I want you to picture your angels around you day and night. These will bring a sense of peace and comfort.
Finally, I would like you to say this short prayer everyday. You can also use your own words. Your life will change. Once you use all these tools – everything will be different. Write me and tell me what happened.
“Dear Lord, please send your powerful, protective angels to surround me. Give me the courage to use these tools. Help me to see myself as 16 feet tall. Let me know how very powerful I really am. Give me the strength to protect myself. I know it is never your will for me to be bullied. I ask all of this in Jesus name.” amen