To all those 20 to 30ish men out there – this is from a 54-year-old father of 2 young adult, single daughters. I’ve watched my daughters (and their Christian friends) frustrations as young men have courted them. I have heard them ask repeatedly “Where have all the good Christian men gone?”
Through my observation and having 34 years of experience being married to their mom here are some basic tips and Godly advice on how to treat a woman.
- Texting – it’s ok but call them instead. Learn to converse and talk things through. Ladies like to hear the tone of your voice, how you are saying things and if you really are interested enough to invest your time in a phone call.
- When you speak to your lady show interest. Find out about her by asking her questions. Be interested in what she likes and what makes her so special.
- When you go out on dates pay for her meal. Chivalry is not dead! She does not want to be treated like your dude friend. Every Christian woman wants to be treated like a lady. You may not be able to pay every time but as much as you can afford make the effort to do so.
- Appropriate touch is important. I’m not talking in a sexual way – but the way a Christian man should – by holding her hand or putting your arm around her. Let her know how valuable she is.
- Let her know you are thinking about her. Give her a card (not a text), a small gift or even hand-picked flowers.
- When she is talking to you in person put down your phone. This means not checking Bumble, Instagram or even your texts when she is speaking to you. You show who is really important by giving her your full attention. When she speaks look her in the eyes. This shows you are interested in what she has to say.
- Be a man. Christian ladies want a leader who will lead gently – not a bully who is demanding and showy.
- Treat her the way you would want to be treated – with kindness, dignity, love and respect.
Following these 8 simple steps will be the beginning of bringing back dignity to dating and courtship and restoring future families that glorify God.
Ladies – know a young man who could use this good advice? Please pass it on!